Sometimes that magic moment doesn’t happen. What then?
It happens more often than many people realize.
Common reasons are because of taking medications, such as antidepressants. Asthma, allergies, colds or even jetlag can contribute.
Older dates may have prostate problems or be cancer survivors.
Diabetes or other health problems may play a factor.
Here are some tips to help make the moment happen AND what to do when it doesn’t.
1) It’s all about oxygen. You get someone more air, you increase their chances of the finale. Give them air, make them take deep breaths.
If you kiss, a sexy way to help them is to breathe into their lungs as they inhale.
You can also match your breathing pattern to theirs. When your breathing is in sync, you can guide them like a dance partner to help them breathe better.
2) Relax the butt and hip muscles. When they are tense, the moment is harder to reach. Massage them or stretch them and let them unwind.
3) Apply pressure gently to the lower abdomen where it meets the hip. if you can hit both sides with your hand, even better. By pushing in and upwards, you stimulate the prostate
and more of the nerve endings.
4) Be super calm and relaxed. If they feel you are getting frustrated or hurried, they will become self conscious and upset. Never let them see you sweat.
Okay, so it didn’t thappen. Now what?
Worst case scenario is that they don’t pay you. This has happened to me once in Boston in 2010.
He was the kind of visitor that arrived 2 hours late, high on drugs, with bad hygiene
and an enormous sense of entitlement.
An hour felt like an eternity and he didn’t even apologize for being so late. So of course, he felt he shouldn’t honor my time.
With one movement, I snatched the money right out of his pocket. He was so stunned that he paused, and I told him to leave.
(that was a REALLY lucky snatch, I am not trained at all)
That said, 99 percent of the time, your date will not hold it against you if they cannot finish. What they appreciate is that you make an honest effort
for them to feel good about themselves. Often, they want to see you feel good instead. They will experience pleasure and satisfaction if you
reach the moment for them. Kindness+sexiness is a winning combination for your life.