Everyone has boundaries. They’re almost crucial if we ever want to live a happy life. They tell people around us when to stop pushing our buttons and when to push a little further. If we don’t set them early, we risk the possibility of letting others decide where they lie. From there on, it’s easy to let people walk all over us.
But there’s a downside. Everyone deserves to know how valuable they are, but coming off too strong has the potential of leading us down the wrong path. We’ve all had diva moments in our lives. Trust me, I’ve had my share and I enjoyed every second of it. Being able to speak freely about what you want, what you deserve, and what your standards are makes you feel in control of the situation. But being a diva is an art, believe it or not, and it’s more than just about getting your way.
Let’s talk seriously here. The line between being a diva and being a bully is very thin, and the one thing that separates it is respect. If a diva “moment” lacks respect, it’s not going to be pretty. The art isn’t about getting everything you want. It’s about stating where your boundaries lie. Period.
The term “diva” has evolved over the last few decades. What used to be defined as a “famous female opera singer” has since turned into an attitude. The same attitude it takes to own the stage (without microphones I might add) and sing an aria over a 20-piece orchestra. This image is what we all strive to live up to: strength, confidence, fearlessness, all of which is rooted by a deep understanding of their value.
There isn’t necessarily a right time to be a diva, but there is always a right way. It’s measured by how you make a person feel. A diva who seeks out to get what she wants without any consideration for others isn’t a diva. They’re a #bitch. But that’s a whole other article.
A diva demands respect, but they’ll give it in return. They tell it like it is, but will listen just as strongly. They make it known where their boundaries lie, but will never embarrass anyone in the process. Those who possess these qualities not only receive the adoration they’re attitude calls for, but they gain the respect they know they deserve.
Knowing our value and self-worth is the most important quality any human being can have. Without it, we’re vulnerable to repeating our mistakes. As we grow older, it becomes clear. When you come across a situation you’ve experience before, that’s the moment our boundaries reveal themselves. It’s easy to backtrack into our old habits if we don’t make a change, which is why our limits must always be defined.
At the end of the day, the ones who set their limits are the happiest people in the bunch. They refuse to repeat mistakes. They’ve been there, done that, and learned from it. But a real diva knows that the only person with the power of breaking their limits is them. They exist on a higher plane because they know they’ve earned it. This is what makes the world look up to them, and we should all strive to be such an example.